It's not how long you live, it's the imprint you make while you're here. Your imprint is kinetic, constantly in motion. Every day, every moment, the decisions you make and how you choose to live your life in big and small ways shapes your imprint on your world and those around you.
Did you make people laugh? Did you inspire people? Did you build others up?
Were people happy to see you walk into a room?
My mom left a huge imprint on my life. I want others to be influenced by the example she set for me.
This site is a mixture of her imprint on me and the imprint I want to make on the world.
Between thinking about the past and worrying about the future, it can be hard to stay positive and focus on the present.
Nobody is perfect, I certainly am not, but if you try your best to incorporate at least one of these ideas into your day, especially when your first reaction is to do the opposite, I feel like you'll have a reason to smile.
The past is black and white, the future is a spectrum we can't see, no matter how hard we squint. The present is just that...a gift. Be HERE. Be in the moment. This moment is where the colors are! This moment is where life is happening!
It's so easy to get caught up in the negatives. I consider myself a positive person by nature, but I still have plenty of days where I realize I'm in a bad mood because I've allowed the circumstances of the day to control my mood instead of purposely finding something positive about the day to focus on. When I remember I am in control of my mood no matter my environment, I always find a way to "glass-half-full" my attitude.
The power of your happiness is in your hands, not the world's. There is a quote I love from Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I think the same can be said of happiness. "No one can make you feel unhappy without your consent." Nobody "makes" you feel anything. People and circumstances influence your life, sometimes in a negative way, but you are in charge of your own attitude. You may not always be able to control your initial reaction, it's perfectly normal to be upset or sad or have a bad day, but you have the power inside yourself to choose to be happy.
Hearing is easy. Listening takes effort. Make the effort. Learning and understanding and connection is everyone's reward. Don't get so caught up in what you're going to say next, that you forget there is another half of the conversation happening. Make the person sitting across from you feel important. Nothing feels quite so soul-crushing as when you are talking to someone face to face and their eyes never leave their phone. No one likes to feel like the third wheel when one of the wheels is an inanimate object.
When you're a kid you ask questions constantly. You want to know everything about the world around you. Somewhere along the way the hustle of daily life tends to drive that curiosity out of adults. Adults might not feel like they have time to ask questions, but you need to make the time to let your mind wander. I enjoy being around people who, like me, never lost that curiosity about how things work and how people think. This world is a fascinating place!
Life is so much easier when you're honest. With the world and with yourself. Coming up with excuses, spinning stories to put yourself in a good light, trying to keep up with people who are actually trying to keep up with you, trying to impress people you don't care about, all this messing around is exhausting. Unless you're trying to spare someone's feelings, why use up so much valuable energy on all that extra work?
Never miss an opportunity to be encouraging to others or to yourself. Whether it's a hand up when you're at a low point or a reinforcement that you're on the right course, you know how great it feels when someone gives you that boost of encouragement you need. Seek out opportunities to be that boost for others.
For every one thing in your life that frustrates you, I bet you can list three things you're grateful for. That's a pretty great ratio. And topping that list should be your people, because at the end of the day, the people in your life are what really matter.